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Drama. Conflict. Chaos.
Most of us claim that we want no part of these things in our lives, and we go out of our way to prevent it. But sometimes it is this very unwanted energy that our unconscious minds uses to try to keep us safe and comfortable. As a certified mindset hypnotist located in the Philadelphia neighborhood of King of Prussia, it always fascinates me how clever the human mind is. Out of all the important jobs that your mind does for you, it's two most important ones are:
Everything that it does can be put into one of these two categories. And when they conflict - and they often do - the minds default choice is the first one. Unfortunately it also has a very wide definition of "safe." Self- sabotage occurs when there is a battle or tension between your conscious desires and your unconscious perceived needs, resulting in unharmonious, conflicted behavior. This behavior can manifest in many ways, including increased episodes of drama, conflict, fighting and even illness and accidents. So how to overcome this?
Hypnosis is a natural and effective method to change old, repeating behavioral patterns to move forward and get what you want. It does so by working at the subconscious level, challenging fears and are sense of discomfort to increase and expand what is really possible for us. As a Philadelphia and King of Prussia practitioner of hypnosis, I work with individuals to explore their unique challenges and goals. Each hypnosis session is tailored to address the individual's specific needs, guiding them towards a more empowered and fulfilling life. It's important to note that while hypnosis can be a valuable tool for personal growth and self-improvement, it is not a quick fix. It requires commitment, self-reflection, and a willingness to embrace change. Hypnosis should always be practiced by qualified professionals who adhere to ethical guidelines and prioritize their clients' well-being. Through hypnosis, you can develop a deeper understanding of the underlying motivations behind your self-sabotaging behaviors. By bringing these motivations to light, you gain the ability to rewrite your subconscious programming and create new, more positive patterns. Hypnosis sessions may involve techniques such as regression, visualization, and suggestion, all aimed at aligning your conscious desires with your unconscious needs. Through hypnosis, you can develop a deeper understanding of the underlying motivations behind self-sabotaging behaviors. By bringing these motivations to light, you gain the ability to rewrite your subconscious programming and create new, more positive patterns. Hypnosis sessions may involve techniques such as regression, visualization, and suggestion, all aimed at aligning your conscious desires with your unconscious needs. Self-sabotaging behaviors like creating drama can be deeply ingrained patterns that hinder personal growth and hinder our ability to achieve our goals. However, with heightened awareness, a compassionate mindset, and the assistance of hypnosis, it is possible to break free from these self-destructive tendencies. By working at the subconscious level, hypnosis can challenge and transform deep-seated fears and discomfort, leading to a more empowered and fulfilling life. So, if you find yourself caught in the drama of self-sabotage and are in the Philadelphia or King of Prussia area, or are open to online sessions, consider exploring the transformative power of hypnosis. In conclusion, drama, conflict, and chaos are often manifestations of self-sabotaging behaviors that stem from the complex interplay between the conscious and unconscious mind. Hypnosis offers a path to address these behaviors at the subconscious level, leading to positive change, personal growth, and the achievement of desired goals. By embracing the power of hypnosis, individuals can pave the way for a more fulfilling and harmonious life. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Kesha Dent is a certified mindset hypnotist, certified RTT hypnotherapist, transformational coach and author of "Life Change Now: A 3-Step Guide to Manifesting What You Want Through the Magic of Being Who You Are". She helps professional adults to overcome negative, self-sabotaging thoughts, to see more forward momentum and to feel confident and in control of their lives, careers and businesses using hypnosis, and serves the Philadelphia and King or Prussia areas as well as worldwide online. You can find her at www.newworldhypnosis.org .
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To understand why self-sabotaging is such a common behavior and why it can be so hard to get out of, it's important to first understand how your mind works.
As a certified hypnotist, I know that your mind's Number One job is to keep you safe. Everything else, including your desires and what you actually want in life, takes a back seat to that main job. That is the mind's default setting. As you can guess, we often run into trouble when what we want and what we unconsciously need to feel safe are in opposition to each other. This is when self-sabotage can occur. So what exactly is self-sabotage? So sabotage occurs when there is tension between what we desire and perceived, often unconscious needs, which results in disharmonious, conflicted behavior. The mind, by default, wants to actively avoid discomfort and anything unknown. But as we get older, we realize that what we most want and desire lies in the unknown. One very common way that self-sabotage shows up is when we are experiencing resistance to the very things that we want most. If you find yourself trying to make a change in your life - such as a big change in your job, starting a business, pursuing more clients, taking action towards improving your job or finances, or doing any change that will improve your life for the better - you may be experiencing self-sabotaging behavior. So what to do about this? #1. Be compassionate. You are not broken. Remember always that you, just like a puppy, perform best with love, praise and patience. One of the most harmful things that people do is to beat themselves up, which only makes the situation worse. #2. Ask yourself, "What could be scaring me about this change that I most want? What needs will staying where I am help me to meet?" The truth is that every change actually brings both positive and "negative" things. For example, starting a business or chasing more clients could also mean an increase in the time that you are spending on your business. This means that you will have to take time away from other things, including things that you may like a great deal. This is just one example. You may need to get honest about unconscious or hidden things that scare you in order to face it, challenge it and Make sure you are meeting that need in a better way (i.e. making a personal contract with yourself to ensure that you still make time to do the fun things you like to do in the earlier example). #3. Stay connected to your big WHYs - The big reasons that you want to make this change. Your desire is a powerful, powerful force in your life. It can be harnessed to bring incredible changes into your life. It's vital that you keep your inner fire - your passion, your desires, your wants and your pool towards your dreams - lit and fed. Immerse yourself in the company of others who are serious about desiring the changes that you want in your life, as they can help to push you towards what you want. And finally, hypnosis is a powerful and effective way to make these changes, though it is certainly not the only way. Once you really get comfortable with the unknown, there is no stopping you in life. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Kesha Dent is a certified hypnotist, certified RTT hypnotherapist, transformational coach and author of "Life Change Now: A 3-Step Guide to Manifesting What You Want Through the Magic of Being Who You Are". She helps professional adults to overcome negative, self-sabotaging thoughts, to see more forward momentum and to feel confident and in control of their lives, careers and businesses. You can find her at www.newworldcoaching.org . The mind is such a fascinating force of nature.
As a certified hypnotist, I know that your mind has two main jobs: to give you what you want, and to keep you safe. In any case where the two of these jobs conflict with each other (and it often may), the default winner is always safety or survival. Now the interesting thing about this is that most people's minds have made a correlation in childhood between survival and comfort, or repetitive habits actions and results. And unless we challenge and override this connection, it can tend to result in an interesting and disruptive phenomena commonly referred to as self-sabotage. So what exactly is self-sabotage? So sabotage occurs when there is tension between what we desire and perceived, often unconscious needs, which results in disharmonious, conflicted behavior. The mind, by default, wants to actively avoid discomfort and anything unknown. But as we get older, we realize that what we most want and desire lies in the unknown. How to get around this? The great news is that the mind is incredibly capable of learning. But this will require a new perspective, including changing the way we think, changing the way we perceive ourselves and our place in this world and changing our relationship with our emotions. Hypnosis is a powerful and effective way to make these changes, though it is certainly not the only way. Dialoguing with your mind AKA changing the way you speak to yourself and think is a powerful daily habit that can break looping self-sabotaging behaviors. Once you really get comfortable with the unknown, there is no stopping you in life. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Kesha Dent is a certified hypnotist, certified RTT hypnotherapist, transformational coach and author of "Life Change Now: A 3-Step Guide to Manifesting What You Want Through the Magic of Being Who You Are". She helps professional adults to achieve life success, overcome anxiety, reignite their confidence and break out of their limitations to create a life of purpose, productivity and passion. You can find her at www.newworldcoaching.org . What do you believe is the biggest obstacle to your success, your happiness and your life fulfillment? If you're like most people, you may name outside circumstances such as other people, discrimination, and even competition. While these are very real and can certainly provide challenge and be an obstacle, it is shown that one of the biggest obstacles that we must learn to overcome is actually our own harsh over critical thoughts aka the Inner Critic. I know I've personally lost count of how many great and accomplished people have repeatedly emphasized their own experience that once they managed to get a hold of the negative, harsh, critical looping thoughts in their own heads, the world opened up for them and things began to fall into place. As a certified hypnotist, I know that our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings create our habits and our habits create our life. But where does this inner voice come from? In short, it is a combination of the various critical voices of those authority figures who shaped us: parents, grandparents, teachers, counselors, pastors, priests, employers, older siblings, and even colleagues, friends, lovers and acquaintances that we have given the power of authority or importance to. Anytime someone criticizes us, and we decide that person's opinion matters, the subconscious mind makes a note to record that information and absorb it for future instruction, if for nothing else than to prevent future pain, especially the pain of rejection. This criticism echoes in our head anytime we want to reach for something more or to stretch ourselves. Why is this a problem? Because everything that you want - a higher paying job, a more exciting career, a new or bigger business, an exciting and sexy relationship - must be found on the other side of our comfort zone. We have to stretch and order to get what we really want, and the Inner Critic's job is to keep us where we're at. The Inner Critic's job is to mold us to the image of someone else, but what will make you most happy is to mold yourself to the image that YOU want. Therefore the Inner Critic must be challenged and quieted. So how to do that?
Praise yourself often and every day. Mutter wonderful things under your breath randomly, even if they don't make sense. Habits are created over time, and habits often can take time to be replaced. But the world has so much to offer you, and the more you are able to believe that - like, really and TRULY believe that - the faster those wonderful things can happen for you. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Kesha Dent is a certified hypnotist, certified RTT hypnotherapist, transformational coach and author of "Life Change Now: A 3-Step Guide to Manifesting What You Want Through the Magic of Being Who You Are". She helps professional adults to achieve life success, overcome anxiety, reignite their confidence and break out of their limitations to create a life of purpose, productivity and passion. You can find her at www.newworldcoaching.org . |
KESHA DENT, CERTIFIED HYPNOTISTKesha Dent is a certified hypnotist, certified RTT hypnotherapist, transformational coach and author of "Life Change Now: A 3-Step Guide to Manifesting What You Want Through the Magic of Being Who You Are". She helps professional adults to achieve life success, overcome anxiety, reignite their confidence and break out of their limitations to create a life of purpose, productivity and passion. You can find her at www.newworldcoaching.org . Archives
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