leave the umbrella at home: how to stop worrying and what to do instead

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I have always been a natural worrier.
 
I've worried pretty much from the beginning about everything.
 
Worrying is in my personality type. It’s in my family order as a first born. And it is even in my astrological chart!
 
I have an active mind, and it has always been natural and easy for me to worry.
It has been easy for me to worry about everything all the time. In fact, I was that woman who always had a big giant purse of all the things that I needed. And in that purse, one thing that I often carried was an umbrella.
 
I felt the need to always be prepared for the worse. At all times. Even at like 18.
 
Fast forward many years, and as a certified mindset hypnotist, I have made some changes about myself. My purse, though existent and not wallet-size, is much smaller than it used to be.

And you will not find an umbrella in there anymore.
 
I've decided to let the umbrella go.
 
In this current 21st century life of ours, it’s no wonder that so many of us worry about the what ifs. The information age and social media are constantly throwing worst-case, negative, terrifying imagery into our faces 24/7.
 
Today, it's more natural to be a worrier more than ever before.
 
But what is worrying, exactly? And how can we change it?

The best answer I can give is that worrying is where your imagination went.
 
The vast majority of us had vivid active imaginations as children. As we grow older, society conditions and forces us to give up the imaginative desires, dreams and goals fueled by our imagination and to embrace the real and dull world of adulting. When we get to a certain age, society demands that we put away our toys, grow up and get real.
 
But what happens to our imagination? Many of us believe that we just lose it and that we are no longer imaginative or creative people.
 
Nothing could be further from the truth. We never give up our imagination. Our imagination never leaves us. It is simply given another job.
 
For most adults, the imagination now takes on the roll of Worry Engine. Where once it created vivid conversations with imaginary friends, expansive magical kingdoms and elaborate fairytale costumes, it now puts just as much gusto into creating hell visions of catastrophe, doom, humiliation, rejection, destruction and death. Especially towards anything new that we want to do.
 
Your imagination is alive and well, but it's likely working against you instead of in your favor. So, what to do about this?
 
Instead of worrying about the worst case scenario, how about reverse worrying instead and asking yourself, “What's the best thing that can happen to me today?”
 
Most people recognize with their rational mind that scientifically what is most likely to happen in today's world is that you will be safe and something even better could happen.
So why not employ your powerful imagination to inundate you with visions of success, glory and the best possible outcomes?
 
Practice reverse worrying  or a change. Furthermore, excessive worrying may hint at an out-of-balance relationship with control.
 
Our ordered and civilized lives often give us the illusion that everything can be under our control. But this is truly not the nature of life. Even in our civilized 21st century lives, life still will harbor plenty of uncertainty and unpredictability.
 
Ask yourself, “What can I control today? And what can I not control? And what is a waste of my energy to try to control?”
 
Practicing these two things can have powerful and positive effects on your life over time.

When you stop obsessively carrying around a bulky umbrella “just in case,” it makes room for things you actually want…or just lightness, which in itself is priceless.




​ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Kesha Dent is a certified hypnotist, certified RTT hypnotherapist, transformational coach and author of "Life Change Now: A 3-Step Guide to Manifesting What You Want Through the Magic of Being Who You Are". She helps professional adults to achieve life success, overcome anxiety, reignite their confidence and break out of their limitations to create a life of purpose, productivity and passion. You can find her at www.newworldcoaching.org  .