HOW TO CHANGE ANYTHING IN 3 STEPS!

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As a certified consulting hypnotist, I always say that the number one most desired commodity in the world is not gold or silver or even money. Those things are simply tools to get to the real number one most desired commodity - change.
So why is deep, lasting change so hard to create and keep?
 
The shortest answer?  Your mind.
Your mind basically has two jobs: to keep you safe, and to give you what you want. These two jobs are often conflicting, and when they do conflict, the one that will always win is the impulse for safety.
 
Your mind considers your safety of higher importance than your happiness.

Yes, that's right. Your mind would rather you be safe than happy.
 
The thing is that this is the default mode that your mind has been set on from the beginning. You've inherited this mindset from your ancestors, and they from their ancestors, way back to the very beginning of the human race. Now, of course, the world has changed an incredible amount since then. And yet your mind has changed very little. It still is designed to be preoccupied with the basic survival things, the things most associated with the first level of Maslow’s pyramid of needs.

The result? Your mind is set on default mode, designed to keep you in place, doing the same things over and over again....because it's safe, even if undesired.

The good news about all this? Knowledge is power, and your mind has incredible learning ability. Once you understand this, you can actually change it. This is simply your mind’s default mode, but you can actually change the setting and learn to overcome the proclivity to stay in place.

Here are three steps to do that.
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1. Practice self-compassion always. Self-compassion is so important for your growth. In fact, it’s overly harsh criticism that is responsible for so much of our damage and our stuckness in life.
 t's so important to have patience with yourself and to know that if you are having a hard time changing nothing is wrong with you. Your mind is working exactly as it should on its default setting. You simply need to change the setting.

2.Bring the traits of the type person who has what you want into your your self-identity. This is so important and something that a lot of people skip. The reason that change is so difficult is because we try to force change, but allow our self-identity to remain as is, from the perspective of a person who is not changing.
For example, if you want to be healthy and change your body, we so often do this while still retaining the identity of someone who doesn't make healthy choices and quite frankly hates making healthy choices. Isn't it any wonder that we have a hard time keeping up and maintaining changes?
For the most effective and harmonious change, you must do it from a place of accepting who you now are going to be and asking yourself, “What type of person gets what I want ?”and then bringing those traits into your life.
 
3.Add the power of mental and emotional focus and attention. When we are trying to make changes, we so often find ourselves giving attention to what we don't want. This undoes the changes that we're trying to create. To create the most effective change, you really want to make an ascending upwards loop of self-identity, thinking and feeling that supports the change you desire.
You can best do this by focusing your thoughts on what you want as well as your emotions. When you give emotional and mental weight and attention to what you DON’T want, you’re undoing the work and allowing this collected power to leak out, slowing down your change and potentially shorting it out altogether.
 
Now, even though this is a simple three step process, I understand that it can be very challenging to do on your own. That's why hypnosis is so powerful. Hypnosis is designed to make these changes easier, because it affects you at your deepest mental level, your subconscious level.
 
Hypnosis can make these steps easier and happen faster.

But with or without hypnosis, these 3 steps are so important to create the deep and lasting change you most desire, and they are available to you always.



​ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Kesha Dent is a certified hypnotist, certified RTT hypnotherapist, transformational coach and author of "Life Change Now: A 3-Step Guide to Manifesting What You Want Through the Magic of Being Who You Are". She helps professional adults to achieve life success, overcome anxiety, reignite their confidence and break out of their limitations to create a life of purpose, productivity and passion. You can find her at www.newworldcoaching.org  .